Tuesday, May 14, 2013

Free at Last







 My dearest and oldest friend Ed died a couple of weeks ago.  My journal is full of journaling and drawings lately in his honor.
 Ed was an old school kinda guy that has taken care of his mother for 10 years.  Taking care of his mother for 10 years was a double edged sword for Ed.  Although he enjoyed the final 10 years of her life, it took a tremendous toll on him.  Ed's mother died one month ago at 90 yrs old.  Ed of course was mourning her death, but was finally planning his decent to Florida.  Life for Ed was finally just beginning....he would be free to hang out by the pool all day and travel to all the places he had longed to visit and experience.    In the last month the "old Ed" I first met, a happy go lucky, fun, stress free kinda guy emerged again.  This was FINALLY  Ed's time to live....truly live
Exactly one month after Ed's mother died,  Ed died in his sleep.
I miss my friend horribly.  I miss his dry wit and huge heart.  I miss his old school ways.  I miss his laughter. I miss being called "angel".   I just miss Ed.
If you are a caregiver, please remember to take time for yourself.  Respite care is not a privilege, it is mandatory.
You are free at last now Ed.






4 comments:

  1. This is a sad story, and I cried reading your words.
    But you did such a beautiful portrait of your friend Ed with your words and I'm sure he will love you evermore.

    Hugs
    Patri

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  2. Oh how sad and I wonder how many Eds there are in the world. Quite a few of them I think. I am so sorry you lost your friend.

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  3. So sorry for your loss of your friend Ed. It is so true about caregivers. They do what they have to do, and sometimes it takes years off their own lives. I know, because I had the main care and responsibility of my husbands 93 year old mother for almost two years, and seriously, I was a vibrant person before I began, and now I look like I aged ten years. It is not an easy road to travel, and thank God we will see our loved ones again. Thank you for posting this, although I am five months late in seeing this post.
    hugs,
    Teresa in California
    http://amagicalwhimsy.blogspot.com/

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